The Inner Path to Success
The truth is….
The habits that got you here aren’t going to get you there.
A next level life will always demand a next level you….
(Because if it didn’t, you’d already be “there” by now wouldn’t you? )
Every next level of #success demands, and quite literally requires that you make changes and show up as a different type of leader
So if you find yourself feeling stuck in this season of change and or stagnating in any way, consider taking on the responsibility of making big BIG changes and adjusting your daily success habits.
Do you know what you need to shift to create a better tomorrow?
Shifting habits and fixed perspectives can be a very confronting and challenging process, so much so, it’s essential that you;
1) BE “THE ONE”
Take on the radical responsibility that you and you alone are “the one” to self initiate this change.
External motivations can help get you started and add a bit of boost to the moral, but real long lasting change must be 100% intrinsically motivated.
2) START WHERE YOU ARE
No more denial. No more delusions. No more closing your eyes about the realities of things. Break down what’s working, what’s not, what you need to start doing, what you need to stop doing, and begin to make change — finally get to work on closing the gap of where you are now, compared to where you want to be.
3) COMMIT COURAGEOUSLY
Make a commitment. Commit to taking on this issue/area of your life — head on, like no shit, both feet in, fully convicted and committed to causing a shift.
Big life changes can get very scary, uncomfortable, and messy at times so it’s important that you muster up the courage to see it through and continue to lean into any backsliding and internal slipperiness with greater and greater conviction.
4) FAILURE IS THE ULTIMATE FEEDBACK
Failure is just feedback. Do not assign any meaning to the results or lack of results you are getting.
When changing or building new habits, look at failure with a neutral mind.
Keep it simple.Keep it moving.
Study the data, See what’s in the gap. Improve your process. Implement changes.
5) DO THE DANG REPS
Mastering anything isn’t the practice of perfection but rather a practice of strengthening your process.
No matter how ugly or messy it may look at first, each time that you show up for yourself and “do the dang rep”, you are strengthening and nurturing your skills, competence, confidence and momentum with it all…
Think it through, yes, but don’t overthink it.
There’s a time and a place for thinking, and then there’s a time and place for continued forward action!
If you have been thinking about change for a long time, instead of actually self initiating change….
Then, maybe it’s time that you muster up the courage and commitment to….
Do the dang rep!
Till next time,
After interviewing dozens of entrepreneurs and ambitious go-getters, I made a list of their Top 50 Tips for greater personal and professional success! Which are your favorites??? I love #20 , #24 , and #43 (a tough one for me)
1. Find a profession/company that allows you to bring all of you to your work.
2. Be gentle with yourself. Give downtime to sit in your sunshine.
3. Stay on your path. All learnings are perfectly timed. Do not compare your progress to another. Simply enjoy your journey!
4. Time is a commodity. Do not waste it dwelling on the past. Each day is a new day, so strive to better yourself into tomorrow.
5. If you aren’t failing forwards, you aren’t taking big enough risks.
6. Professional clarity comes from seeking greater joy, fulfillment, and satisfaction. Use those guide words as a means to make authentic change.
7. Be straightforward and honest in every relationship. As much as it can be hard to share a pain point, this creates greater trust and better teamwork.
8. Everything looks 20/20 looking backwards. Life ’s journey is complex so feel through the layers and trust the connections, as they will come.
9. Seek professional development. Growth as a leader comes from seeking outside perspective.
10. No one knows everything and no problems are unique. Be willing to humble yourself and ask for help.
11. Be more committed to making progress than looking good.
12. Be willing to ask for the kind of support and teamwork you need.
13. Starting a business? Focus on making revenue from Day 1.
14. Building a team? Hire slow. Fire fast.
15. Strong leadership comes when you tell people the result you want, not how you want it done. Doing so, you empower your team to figure it out.
16. Perseverance requires patience.
17. Humility and kindness to your peers and bosses go a long way.
18. Be kind to everyone who crosses your path. It pays to develop an ability to deal with difficult people. How they show up has nothing to do with you.
19. If someone is triggering you, seek to understand. Be curious. Do not take it personally. Be willing to see your part in it all, and own as much responsibility as you can.
20. Priority #1 is always self care, health, and wellness. Your best work is not possible if you yourself are compromised. Keep yourself prioritized.
21. Never undervalue yourself or your work.
22. The path to success is the path to self. Know when you are off course.
23. Learn to trust your gut instincts and intuition. You don’t need presenting evidence or reasons for your decision to be the right one.
24. Follow your heart. This should hold the most weight, not your logic. Then trust your logic to figure it all out by filling in the gaps.
25. Filter out all voices that don’t ring true to you and your ultimate vision.There might be plenty of people who say what you are trying to do is impossible. Do not listen to them, even if they are close family and friends. You know where you are going, so stay committed to the vision.
26. Be willing to always learn and grow. Embrace constructive feedback. If you are giving feedback, ask first for the permission to provide it.
27. There is nothing greener on the other side. Learn to water where you are.
28. Accept people for who and where they are. You can’t forcefully evolve someone who isn’t willing. Instead of being critical, impatient, and or demanding that someone changes, ask them what they need and see how you can be of service to them and their growth.
29. Do not be scared of tough communications. There are no good or bad conversations.
30. Keep learning. Keep working. Keep pushing. There is nothing out of reach for you to accomplish. Don’t EVER give up.
31. Do not take for granted those that are special to you. Always make time for those you love.
32. Strive for more work/life balance. Career progress needs to be balanced by spending time with the people you love and doing things that light you up.
33. Gratitude is THE attitude in evolving this human experience.
34. Do what you love. You are never too old, and it’s never too late. Don’t waste anymore time.
35. Everyone flourishes in varying conditions. There is no right or wrong way to live a fulfilling and successful life.
36. Develop compassion and empathy for yourself; it allows you to hold more for others.
37. Speak authentically. Be transparent in your requests, expressive of your needs, and committed to your intentions.
38. Powerful enrollment is caused by enthusiasm, energy, and personal authenticity.
39. You can do good, and do well. Always stand your ethical and moral high ground.
40. You never need to compromise your character for success.
41. You don’t need everyone’s business to be successful. Let go of those who are too costly to your wellbeing.
42. Embrace the spotlight. You deserve to shine.
43. Being disciplined and structured will help you achieve greatly, but don’t forget to keep it light and playful along the way. Life is meant to be fun.
44. You need no reason and or planned vacation to be still. This moment is good enough.
45. You can always develop more patience for yourself and others. This is often why it is referred to as being a “virtue”
46. Open to let things come to you. There is equal productive value in the quiet and the calm.
47. Going “ hard” and “fast” doesn’t always yield the best results. Learn to know when you are spinning your wheels. Slow down and shift into a lower gear.
48. Be aware of burn out, and pay attention to the signs. Step away from the laptop. Play hooky. Go to the beach in the middle of the day.
49. Every single breakdown can be a gift if you ask, “ How is this serving me?” and “In what way am I being trained and developed for a better tomorrow?”
50. Travel often. Get out of your routine. It breaks habitual thinking patterns and opens you up to new possibilities and ways of being.
THE GOLDEN RULE : MAKE IT PERSONAL!
There is a saying that goes,
“If you are clear on your ‘why’, you can bear almost any ‘how’ ”
In other words, being clear on your ‘why’ and finding a personal conviction can really help you stay motivated through even the toughest of life’s challenges — keeping you on track to accomplishing your end goal(s).
So, if maintaining a consistent and healthy exercise routine has been a struggle for you in the first few months of 2019, maybe it’s time you realign more deeply to your exercise “why”.
Devin, first off, what is a ‘why’ and what makes it so important in the first place?
A ‘why’ can be defined as the source, motive, cause, or purpose for setting out to achieve a specific aim, task, or goal. It is a deeply held reason for accomplishing something, better known as a ‘why’.
Finding your ‘why’ is important because it not only can uncover and give great access to a very powerful force within, but it can also help sustain your intention and commitment to your goals even through the toughest times and the most challenging obstacles life can throw at you. Want to know why New Year’s resolutions usually don’t work? Well, it’s because those resolutions are not backed by a deep seated and personally convicted ‘why’. Connected, your why provides a never-ending and truly unshakeable limitless reservoir of energy and vitality within..
The true power of a ‘why’ however, can be seen when it is battle tested. It can be one of the toughest and strongest combatants to facing unforeseen obstacles and life setbacks. For example, without first having understood your ‘why’, you might make headway on your goals and pursuits temporarily, but over time, it is inevitable that you will backslide, lose momentum, and or may even quit entirely. Nevertheless, having your ‘why’ near and dear, something to emotionally fall back on, will help you stand back up time and time again — helping move you forward no matter what! It’s the motivational whisper over your shoulder pushing you forward to achieve your highest life pursuits.
Okay, I get the importance of a why but what does that have to do with exercise?
As with the ‘why’ in life, exercise is no different. Your exercise ‘why’ is your motivation for maintaining your health and wellness routines when no one is watching, and especially when no one is watching. The days when it’s rainy, snowy, sleety or you’re functioning on merely a few hours of sleep, these are the days you need your exercise ‘why’ to muster up the willpower to honor your health and wellness routines. Like anything in life, making progress, always requires consistent effort and when you really know your ‘why‘, and you are firm on it, your health habits aren’t just a casual commitment, they truly are non negotiable.
Having this be firm, then makes you future self available and your ideal results inevitable. When you know your ‘why’, you will push you to meet these new goals even through all of life’s changes and demands ( school, kids, moving, new job etc). Those that find their ‘why’ will be truly inspired and motivated to increase healthier habits and make positive body improvements. Those that don’t, won’t.
Here are a few exercise ‘why’ examples;
– I exercise to be a healthiest fittest version of myself.
– I want to be an inspiration to myself and forever be desired by my husband.
– I want to be a role model for my two growing daughters as to what healthy, body positive habits look like.
– I exercise to show my son that nothing matters more than your health and vitality.
– Health is always life’s #1 priority. There is no amount of wealth that is worth compromising my health
– I exercise to have enough energy to play with my grandkids and pick them up while at the park.
– I exercise to constantly beat my personal best, year after year. (I’ve ran 5 marathons in 2 years and each time I beat my time. I love seeing my progress)
If you don’t know your exercise ‘why’ not to worry. Finding your ‘why’ is a process and one that can oftentimes be very challenging. But hopefully after today, you can create some momentum around this.
To begin, start simply by creating the opportunity to think freely about your ‘why’. Find a quiet space to think, allowing yourself to connect more directly to yourself and to the reasons for making exercise a “MUST” and forever a habit. When looking within, be forewarned, you might also be met by the ‘not so fun’ parts of yourself, the parts we all face daily: the fears, doubts, insecurities, and inner conflicts sitting just below the surface – our biggest barriers to progressing with our intentions.
These barriers are part of being human and are truly unavoidable. However, if you find yourself struggling, get in action. Immediately. Do what you need to do to shift your mindset into a different more positive state. If you can’t, seek additional support from a performance coach like me, one that understands how to support you in a process such as this keeping you connected you to your ‘why’ and empowered in your journey.
Finding a deeply held personal ‘why’ is your golden ticket to changing. Yet, still we sometimes find ourselves losing sight of it. If we aren’t mindful, life’s demands and conflicting priorities surely will steal away all our motivation and progress. That’s why it’s so necessary to keep it in the forefront of your mind.Your ‘why’ will always be there when needed to move you past any emotional and mental block into a space of greater self mastery.
Here are a few questions to help you find and connect more deeply to your exercise ‘why’;
– Who do I want to be physically, mentally, and emotionally a year from now?
– What is my 1 year, 3 year or 5 year future vision for myself?
– What exactly is my ‘why’ for exercise, and have I knowingly or unknowingly been holding myself back?
– What am I doing this all for? Am I doing this for myself or do I see a bigger purpose?
– What excuses do I make around reaching my exercise goals?
– What do I need to change in my life to make exercise a consistent routine and forever a habit?
– How can I sustain momentum when confronted by my own inner limits and when stretching to the next level with my exercise goals?
– Is there a specific picture, quote, ritual, routine or mantra I can create to remind myself of my exercise ‘why’?
What would it look like to set myself up for success with exercise? Is there any strategic prep work I can do on a weekly/daily basis to sustain my exercise habits and support my health journey?
Take 10-15 minutes to write out the above questions. If you do, in no time you will be making exercise a FOREVER habit!
1) Build a Better You
——> Research shows that people who exercise regularly rate higher in confidence and self esteem. Remember, you don’t need to be the CEO to look and lead like one!
2) Overall Mental Health & Mood
——> Daily exercise releases chemicals into the brain, better known as endorphins, which reduces anxiety – leaving you feeling happier and improving your ability to handle daily work-life stress. We all could use a little less stress and little more success and happiness am-I-right?
3) Mental Toughness
——> During a hard workout, the same endorphins that are released to alleviate anxiety and stress also regulate pain and stress to the physical body. Thus, creating the famous and euphoric runners high. Similar to morphine, it is rumored to act as an analgesic and sedative – psychologically diminishing your perception of pain, and increasing your tolerance levels and mental toughness.
4) Emotional Clarity
——> Exercise is shown to improve emotional clarity. After a good workout, you should be less stressed, helping you think more clearly, and enabling you to more easily prioritize tasks at hand. Feeling the wrath of a micro managing boss, pesky co-worker, or ever increasing pressure of others? Instead of blowing your top, think about using exercise as a good way to keep yourself emotionally grounded, centered, and calm.
5) Stay Cognitively Sharp
——> Along with endorphins, exercise is known to releases proteins into the brain, improving it’s structure and overall cognition ability – keeping ones thinking, learning, and judgment skills sharp. Research also shows that even regular aerobic exercise, the kind that gets your heart and sweat glands pumping appears to also boost the size of the hippocampus, the brain area involve in verbal memory and learning. So the next time you need to take an important call, write a critical email, or have a high level meeting – be sure to make time for a good sweat.
6) Get Better Sleep
——> Having trouble sleeping? Fall asleep faster by exercising 60 minutes per day! Good workouts are known to help boost energy usage.The next time you find yourself unable to sleep, try getting in a good workout in to roll into bed with your energetic life tank on E.
Is there any correlation between a good sweat and greater work life success?
When thinking about the value of exercise we tend to focus on the physical benefits: lower blood pressure, a healthier heart, or a more attractive physique, but what about our overall work life performance? According to the New York Times, the ideal daily dose of exercise as per current government and health organizations calls for about 150 mins (2.5hrs) of moderate exercise per week. Those that meet this guideline enjoy a list of life enhancing and longevity benefits as well as meet the criteria for being 39% less at risk of dying prematurely than those who never exercise.
Unlike medicine, exercise does not come with dosing instructions.So what is the recommended amount?How much should one exercise to live an optimally performing life? Well, the same researchers also pin pointed the sweet spot for health benefits to be found with those who tripled the recommended dose of weekly exercise from 150 minutes up to 450 mins/week (7.5hrs).
Now, it is important to say that it is possible to over exercise, so make sure not to over do it. Do plan to incorporate adequate rest and recovery into your weekly habits to keep your mind, body, spirit feeling and performing optimally!
Read the full New York Times article—-> HERE
Even machines break down without the proper maintenance. The mind, body and spirit are the same. To live an optimally performing life, it’s important that we recognize the importance of rest, recovery and reflection in our weekly routine. Like machines we can’t operate 24/7 without the proper maintenance.
The same can be said about the human body to avoid break down and maintain peak performance levels. Greater success in any area comes from frequent and reflective idle time to improve processes.
It’s very important to ask the body and give it what it needs to recalibrate it’s internal system. We must give it what it needs to help it upgrade it system to a higher level and or maintain the levels you already demand from it.
The weekends are a perfect time to do this practice. Instead of rushing out the door to do that chore or make those brunch plans you’d rather not go to, stop for a second. Ask yourself what do you need to do today to honor your body, mind, and spirit? How can you support it to find balance this weekend to help it avoid breakdown and inefficiencies in the coming week?